Friday, December 10, 2010

Life

As much as I love being a Mama, I miss having a life that didnt consist of changing diapers, cleaning up spit up and dealing with tears and not being able to figure out whats going on.....Then again....I do love the fact that as long as I am calm....Marty usually settles right down for me...and if he's sleepy he cuddles right in and goes to sleep. I love his gummy grins, and his squeals (that my mama, thought was hilarious to teach him...and as soon as he's able to understand the word no....or stop...we are getting rid of the high pitch squeals), and when he learns how to do something new....in the last week he has learned how to roll himself over from his belly to his back....reach out for a toy and push it around, and hold his bottle....we're still working on from his back to his belly....but he'll get there! He's also tolerating tummy time even more now that he's learned how to roll over and reach for toys!

That being said....I miss having a sex drive, I miss having time with my friends sans Marty (even though I have horrible separation anxiety), I miss wanting to put an effort into how I look....and I totally miss not being a size 18 which is almost impossible to find and looking for flattering jeans in the plus size section was horrible plus I wanted actual jeans....something that if Dan has to dump the bike, and Im with him will help protect my legs....not shred into a thousand pieces along with my skin. I miss feeling pretty. I dont want to just be Marty's Mama...though I love that title....I'm bored....I want to have more to talk about then my childs loose bowels, and how his diaper rash looks horrible.... I want to get out of the house.

I want to do something just for me....I feel like I give and I give and I give....and I'm drained. I don't feel like I have anything else to give....I don't even feel like I know who I am anymore besides Marty's Mama. I want Marty and my future kids to see me as more as their mother, as someone who has a life outside of taking care of them....My mom tried to that, but I think in the end she put us first so much she lost herself and now that we're both out of the house she doesnt know what to do....and I don't want that...I love my mom very much, and she did the best she could. But I dunno...I want more for myself, as selfish as that may sound....so I have more to talk about with my friends and husband than my child though he's very interesting...it does get old pretty fast...once the newness wears off....

5 comments:

Jersey Momma said...

I've been just a stay home mom for sooo many years. I totally get it, which is why I just started my own blog to talk, vent or just make fun of my daily life w/out being over analyzed or judged for saying what's on my mind by friends or family. Sometimes I just feel so old & unkept & then I see my friends, so youthful & full of life...I think, i'm the same age, what happened to "me?"

Miss Pancakes said...

following your blog...come to confessionsof30something.blogspot.com and share some of your thoughts and ideas...there are many people feeling the way you are!

xiahluver said...

I know im not a mother but even though you are you can still do the things you want. It's just how much you really want it. Don't let anyone hold you back from doing what you want. And if they love you, then they would really understand why you're doing the things that you want to do.

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Heather said...

I'm sitting here thinking to myself. My goodness this woman is in my head! I have two babies under two. The whole Mom thing does get exhausting doesn't it? I can totally relate. Thanks for putting this out there. It's nice to not be alone.

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